*probably the most* viewed Ted Talk

About 20 mins that can change “your” (the generic you) life.

My mp3 version:

YouTube version: https://youtu.be/eLKfTgG_9Ok

My video file version: synthetic-happiness.3gp

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June 27 Picked by Me from the book Leaving The Illusion by Joseph Plummer

“Six and a half hours flew by in what seemed like two. Before Alex knew it, that final, horrible moment was upon him: when the bartender cranks up the lights and takes away everyone’s drinks. “Buh yu dint give uz lass call,” Alex slurred in vain. He looked to Ken for backup: “He dint givus lass call…” Fortunately, Ken was in much better shape. He assured Alex that the bartender had given last call. More importantly, Ken managed to get them both home without incident.”

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Hmm… No “man” left behind…

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June 26 from the book Addiction Is the Symptom by Rosemary Ellsworth Brown, PhD with Laura MacKay

June 26 from the book Addiction Is the Symptom by Rosemary Ellsworth Brown, PhD with Laura MacKay:

“The problem, common to all addiction, is an underlying emotional dependency. Its symptoms—addictive behaviors–are characterized by attempts to control and manipulate externals to meet internal emotional and spiritual needs. The fundamental dynamic is one of dependency on ‘the other’, whatever or whomever that might be.”

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June 25 from the AA Big Book Forward to the Second Edition:

“By personal religious affiliation, we include Catholics, Protestants, Jews, Hindus, and a sprinkling of Moslems and Buddhists.”

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June 24 – “Take what you need and leave the rest.” – Heard around the tables

My experience is the 12S’s are a problem solving method. The scientific method has six steps and most formal (i.e., mandated documentation of how a recurring nonconformity was resolved) problem solving in business/government have five to eight steps. The 12S’s are a customized version for addicts and maybe some day there will be a better customized version; but if so it won’t be in time for me.

My personal modification of the traditional 12S model is in how quick to do them, the “God” thing, Step 4, Step 10, and “to be continued”:

– S1 – If I admit I have an obsession of the mind and a compulsion of the body concerning my drug/behavior of choice, I did Step 1. No need for 45 questions etc. For instance I had about 15 years without drinking when my Mom died and the though of drink appeared in my mind. I didn’t, but the point is it was there even after 15 years.

– S10 – It’s never too early to start S10.

– S2 – I have a problem with the word “believe” because I don’t 100% believe anything; I only have conclusions open to change upon the possibility of learning something new. So for me, if I conclude there *might be* (not “is” because what’s a solution for someone else might not be my solution) a solution and I *decide* (action word) to seek my solution, I did Step 2.

– S3 – My “God as I understand Him/Her” is the flow of life and the way for me to continually improve better participating in the flow of life is to abstain (remember obsession/compulsion) and continue with the other steps. I conclude “flow of life” works better than “doorknob” for anyone. Further, when I hear the word:

— “Higher Power”, to me it’s plural higher powers; anyone or anything that helps me not drink.

— “Prayer”, to me it means “affirm” as in repeat something so I remember it more and better. I sometimes participate in group prayer and I choose my battles carefully for whether or not to participate in other social rituals.

— “Meditate”, to me it means eliminate distractions so I can focus on the flow of life as in when I bicycle in the boonies.

– My Step 4 inventory is two-way; e.g., I didn’t choose to be abused as a toddler and there was nothing wrong with my reaction at the time. Yes, I did react wrongly as an adult using it as an excuse to drink, but that’s a mosquito compared to the wrongness of unhealthy social institutions of such as corporal punishment and religious indoctrination of children. Yes I was an insane adult and yes I retain *a little* (but a little goes a long way) of that insanity; but I can start each day without yesterday’s guilt and other negative baggage.

To be continued…

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June 23 – Narcissism

June 23 from Beyond Belief: Agnostic Musings for 12 Step Life by Joe C.

“Know that although in the eternal scheme of things you are small, you are also unique and irreplaceable, as are all your fellow humans everywhere in the world.” Margaret Laurence (1926– 1987)

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June 22 – Harmonic and Cognitive Dissonance aka Double-Think Compared

The video at http://www.aara2.me/wp-content/uploads/2016/06/Harmonic-Dissonace-Tacoma-Narrows-Bridge-Collapse.avi shows Harmonic Dissonance (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tacoma_Narrows_Bridge_(1940)). The bridge designers didn’t correctly factor-in the narrows winds causing conflicting vibrations in metal leading to metal fatigue the same way as sometimes occurs in aircraft (http://www.aara2.me/wp-content/uploads/2016/06/rivetFatigueSideways.jpg). Cognitive dissonance (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_dissonance) not resolved does the same to the human brain and in-turn body; the conflicting thoughts may be at the conscious or subconscious level to include on conscious and one unconscious though; CG is often embedded by mainstream cultures through double-think and other forms of abuse.

Click for video: Harmonic-Dissonace-Tacoma-Narrows-Bridge-Collapse

rivetFatigueSideways

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June 21 from Beyond Belief: Agnostic Musings for 12 Step Life by Joe C.

“Let no one be slow to seek wisdom when he is young, nor weary in the search thereof when he is grown old. For no age is too early or too late for the health of the soul.” Epictetus (AD 55– 135)

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June 20

“June 20 RELEASE FROM FEAR

The problem of resolving fear has two aspects. We shall have to try for all the freedom from fear that is possible for us to attain. Then we shall need to find both the courage and grace to deal constructively with whatever fears remain.
— AS BILL SEES IT, p. 61” – http://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/daily-reflection has the whole page each day

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